It has been many months since Derek Hoare has been able to share any news with us about Ayn. her mother's visits have gone from non existent to infrequent at best. Lately it has become difficult to come here everyday to change the date and the count of days Ayn has been away from her family. Today is Day 349 and none of us can imagine the pain this family has been made to endure these past 349 days.
For me personally the only way for me to relate to their pain is that which I have felt with the death of someone I loved. The pain of such loss, although less intense with time, can go on for many years, perhaps forever. What has been stolen from Ayn and her family can never be regained. They can't celebrate her 10th birthday or the Christmas of 2011. It will be a long time after she comes home to them, maybe not until February 2013, that the memories of this time apart will not haunt them all.
Thousands of people, globally, wait in hope and prayer that somehow a miracle can happen to end this horrific situation sooner than after the last court date set for February 2013. I guess we are hoping and praying that there is a person within the BC Government, MCFD itself who will see the senselessness of this situation and right the terrible wrong that has been done to this young child and her family.
On June 16, 2012 it will be the one year anniversary of Ayn's abduction. This never should have happened at all and the BC Government dares to say they put "families first" and they have the audacity to call this the Ministry of Children and Family Development. Canadian Government officials have chosen to do nothing. I am proud to be a Canadian but I am ashamed of our governments.
DEDICATED to a loving Dad and a little 11 year old girl named Ayn who was abducted from school by Child Protective Services in British Columbia, Canada on June 16, 2011 and has remained in custody, heavily drugged. Her parents and brothers (at home) committed no crime. Ayn's only crime is that she is autistic. There are far too many similar stories happening globally and we all need to be very concerned; it could be a story of someone you love. Help us support her family and tell her story.
Showing posts with label BC Ministry of Children and Family Development. Show all posts
Showing posts with label BC Ministry of Children and Family Development. Show all posts
Tuesday, May 29, 2012
Wednesday, December 7, 2011
IN AN INSTANT!
by Jean Nicol
Today as I took a moment to change the date and the day number at the top of this Blog I cried.
There is so much sadness surrounding this sweet innocent little girl with the beautiful smile and engaging laugh, who was thriving and so happy at home with her daddy, uncle and brothers until June 16, 2011. Someone deliberately decided to destroy this little girl's life, her spirit. They did this without any knowledge of who she was and how happy she was with her family where life was so good, so promising. All she knows and may never forget is that strangers came to her school. They were fighting with her and took her away and her daddy wasn't there to help her because they didn't ask him to come help her this time as they usually do. Can we even imagine how frightened she was? If not, then imagine how frightened you would be if you can and that would be little compared to her fear.
In an instant her happiness was over.
In an instant her family she loved so much had disappeared and she still does not know why 175 days later.
In an instant this little one with autism was taken from the very safe, comfortable, predictable environment her loving home provided.
In an instant she was drugged into submission.
In an instant she was living with strangers who did not know or understand her, who she was, what she needed, what she enjoyed, how she communicated her needs, wants, fears, hurts and so much more.
Think about this.................... What would you do if this were your child - and it might be one day.
Think about this.................... The Ministry of Children and Family Development who is responsible for all of the above has the power to change all this and take Ayn home, in fact they have said they will do this - they know that is where she should be.
In an instant Ayn could be home again! Why is this not happening?
Today as I took a moment to change the date and the day number at the top of this Blog I cried.
There is so much sadness surrounding this sweet innocent little girl with the beautiful smile and engaging laugh, who was thriving and so happy at home with her daddy, uncle and brothers until June 16, 2011. Someone deliberately decided to destroy this little girl's life, her spirit. They did this without any knowledge of who she was and how happy she was with her family where life was so good, so promising. All she knows and may never forget is that strangers came to her school. They were fighting with her and took her away and her daddy wasn't there to help her because they didn't ask him to come help her this time as they usually do. Can we even imagine how frightened she was? If not, then imagine how frightened you would be if you can and that would be little compared to her fear.
In an instant her happiness was over.
In an instant her family she loved so much had disappeared and she still does not know why 175 days later.
In an instant this little one with autism was taken from the very safe, comfortable, predictable environment her loving home provided.
In an instant she was drugged into submission.
In an instant she was living with strangers who did not know or understand her, who she was, what she needed, what she enjoyed, how she communicated her needs, wants, fears, hurts and so much more.
Think about this.................... What would you do if this were your child - and it might be one day.
Think about this.................... The Ministry of Children and Family Development who is responsible for all of the above has the power to change all this and take Ayn home, in fact they have said they will do this - they know that is where she should be.
In an instant Ayn could be home again! Why is this not happening?
Monday, November 14, 2011
DRUGS CAN’T STOP THE TEARS
by Ron Unruh
Our hearts are touched by Derek Hoare’s broken heart and most of all by the bewildered agony that terrifies Derek’s nine year old daughter Ayn (pronounced Ine). After eighteen days of Ayn’s crying, the Ministry requested that Derek supply a photo of him and Ayn together. She has been carrying this around ever since. That was 4 ½ mont...hs ago. Those pretty blue eyes were filled with tears for eighteen days despite the injection of three drugs into her system. That’s how the ministry has cared for this child with an autism disorder. Seventy hours after seizing her MCFD began the drug treatment. Drugs were unnecessary and unwelcome in Derek’s home. He used compassion and conversation and caresses with Ayn. That works when Daddy does it. MCFD does not have the time, patience or sincere concern for that treatment. We are back to the question of ‘the best interests of the child’ about which it is progressively clearer that MCFD has little practical knowledge. MCFD is an administration not a family, an organization that manages a business, the intrusive and unwanted care of children that have been taken against the horror-struck objections of parents who find themselves bullied by a government that pretends to disdain bullying. Come on Premier Christy, pay attention to this case. I understand it is not customary for you to interfere in a specific case. If you choose to disregard Ayn and Derek, they and the rest of their family will suffer through the tangle of legalities and the crush of near bankruptcy.
Derek has not been suspected of harming his child or neglecting her. Upon her apprehension, Ayn was assessed by a hospital that reported there is no indication of any injury, harm and maltreatment and she is well and healthy and autistic. MCFD knows that Derek is a devoted and diligent dad. The evidence is conspicuous. His reputation is incontestable. And poor Ayn, who had grown out of bedwetting, has resumed this involuntary display of inner panic. Where is her father? She must wonder every hour of every day. He has always been available. He is her guardian, protector, champion and liberator – forever. And she misses her brothers. This little family, a dad and three children, two of them autistic and nevertheless in love with one another, deserve to be together, and are in anguish as long as they are not together. Their mom, while separated from their dad, is wholly supportive of Derek and applauds his efforts as a father.
• Join the Facebook page entitled Help Bring little Autistic girl back to her daddy that now has 4327 members. https://www.facebook.com/group s/152278868178942
• Would you also kindly sign the petition that you can find here, http://www.thepetitionsite.com /1/bring-ayn-van-dyk-home/
Please contact Derek Hoare directly at Derek Hoare iconoclast_ensues@yahoo.com
904-HELP AYN 904-435-7296
Our hearts are touched by Derek Hoare’s broken heart and most of all by the bewildered agony that terrifies Derek’s nine year old daughter Ayn (pronounced Ine). After eighteen days of Ayn’s crying, the Ministry requested that Derek supply a photo of him and Ayn together. She has been carrying this around ever since. That was 4 ½ mont...hs ago. Those pretty blue eyes were filled with tears for eighteen days despite the injection of three drugs into her system. That’s how the ministry has cared for this child with an autism disorder. Seventy hours after seizing her MCFD began the drug treatment. Drugs were unnecessary and unwelcome in Derek’s home. He used compassion and conversation and caresses with Ayn. That works when Daddy does it. MCFD does not have the time, patience or sincere concern for that treatment. We are back to the question of ‘the best interests of the child’ about which it is progressively clearer that MCFD has little practical knowledge. MCFD is an administration not a family, an organization that manages a business, the intrusive and unwanted care of children that have been taken against the horror-struck objections of parents who find themselves bullied by a government that pretends to disdain bullying. Come on Premier Christy, pay attention to this case. I understand it is not customary for you to interfere in a specific case. If you choose to disregard Ayn and Derek, they and the rest of their family will suffer through the tangle of legalities and the crush of near bankruptcy.
Derek has not been suspected of harming his child or neglecting her. Upon her apprehension, Ayn was assessed by a hospital that reported there is no indication of any injury, harm and maltreatment and she is well and healthy and autistic. MCFD knows that Derek is a devoted and diligent dad. The evidence is conspicuous. His reputation is incontestable. And poor Ayn, who had grown out of bedwetting, has resumed this involuntary display of inner panic. Where is her father? She must wonder every hour of every day. He has always been available. He is her guardian, protector, champion and liberator – forever. And she misses her brothers. This little family, a dad and three children, two of them autistic and nevertheless in love with one another, deserve to be together, and are in anguish as long as they are not together. Their mom, while separated from their dad, is wholly supportive of Derek and applauds his efforts as a father.
• Join the Facebook page entitled Help Bring little Autistic girl back to her daddy that now has 4327 members. https://www.facebook.com/group
• Would you also kindly sign the petition that you can find here, http://www.thepetitionsite.com
Please contact Derek Hoare directly at Derek Hoare iconoclast_ensues@yahoo.com
904-HELP AYN 904-435-7296
Tuesday, November 1, 2011
Derek's October Updates
October 29
Wow a whole week went by and no MCFD.... pretty bad when that becomes the norm. Strange cars pull in and Wyatt hides, Lyric has now set up a photo album of him and Ayn on the window sill in her bedroom which he now occupies. And I cannot stop staring at her photo which is now mounted directly above my monitor. I'll stare and ponder what is the next most important thing for me to read or write.
It seems to me really that the sluggish time factor is likely some sort of psychological mindgame against parents, like they are forcing you through the stages of grief; hoping to push you into "acceptance". Monstrous really, but they don't know Ayn and they certainly do not know Me, I will not relent and the longer they take the angrier I get... to tear a child from a parent and feed them both into a system which they believe will break that bond they have spent years forming... grrr. For me that bond grows stronger, because each minute is another little wound inflicted upon me and my family.
So it's like CPS is saying - "You guys sit and wait while we mess with your heads and hearts"... she is innocent eh... she did nothing to you... she is just a little disabled girl, who wants to live life. She does not understand how her actions could ever lead to such a thing as this. And then they expect the parents to just sit and watch it happen, to just let them tinker with their child's psyche. And for what?? They have some 4 year degree and now they know what is in "the best interest" of children? Did they study BioChem, Physics, Philosophy, Epistemology; No, they went to a lax 4 year degree and now have some belief that they are the voices for children. After an education like that you would think they would walk away realizing "family dynamics", were just that dynamic. Did they wipe our kids noses, hold their hair while they were puking, rock them to sleep, sing or read to them, laugh/cry/smile/suffer... were they even there? For them to simply assume that two disabled kids must be too hard for a single parent to handle and then act upon that nonsensical assumption... under the guise of help! We the People do not know this is what they are even doing! Before this ever happened you assume they are rescuing kids who are beaten, or tortuously punished. But to come and kidnap a child under the guise of lightening a parents load! BY WHAT RIGHT? None of us here have that right, imagine your neighbour walking in this afternoon and doing that.... criminal... so how is it we have delegated that power to them? We haven't, they simply wrote themselves a note "CFCSA" authorizing them to do it. grrr
Ayn is a little girl who loves to bake, make crafts, sing and listen to music, nice warm baths, curling up under her favourite blanket and watching a movie, taking pictures and playing Tickle Chase. She is not some uncontrollable monster as they would like to present. They can go ahead and portray her as such the only thing revealed by such a presentation is their ignorance. She was a good girl with a suffusing disability, but it did not stop her from trying, it did not stop her from learning, it did not stop her from loving... and it did not stop her from being a happy little girl. Let my Daughter be! these actions are monstrous, and to do them using nice people and in the name of "help" makes them no better. Go ahead and feed the public form responses and evade responsibility for your actions... no-one will ever notice the misguided inststutional ineptitude... right? Wrong.
Wow what a busy day; tons of details to sort out, Wyatt is ill, Lori Pynn just blew me away, and I just got back from grabbing Lou from the bus stop.... ahhh parenting :) Funny y'know because immerse ourselves in our kids lives and face one challenge after the next, each with their own set of tribulations and rewards. To have others look in on your life and take no time to understand where you have come from and where you are going on that journey we call Family, and then based on those ignorant assumptions impose upon you what they perceive is "best" is an absolutely outlandish sense of justice. It is both scary and dismaying to think that I wasn't the first to go through this and will not be the last. It seems so critical that people wake up to this reality of a system so misguided it has rendered itself to be the very aggressor it was meant to protect us from.
Oct 19
Well this was certainly emotionally one of the hardest days for me to go through... it is indescribable, a rush of different emotions laced together by one thread... propensity to cause suffering. Now many may find it strange because.... well let me start from the beginning.
I awoke this morning from the first dream ever of Ayn being returned.... it was late at night, perhaps 10, and Wyatt began yelling "She's here!" or "She's home!" I said "What?!" and ran down the stairs unlocked the front door and sure enough there was Ayn accompanied by two people... I burst into tears and hugged her tighly as she did me.
"I missed you." I said. "I missed you" she replied.
We went in and upstairs and very shortly after I awoke, it was so vivid it took a few disapponting seconds to realize it was not the truth.
After getting Lyric off to school (and Wyatt having gone to Amie's yesterday), I had a few moments to try to collect my thoughts and prep mentally for the upcoming meeting with the SW.
Now it began with essentially me clearing the last hurdle to Ayn's return, visitation, an elation to be sure. After yesterday hearing that my suggested alternatives to visitation were rejected, today my offer of a "fixed return date" was accepted and I believed an agreement could be reached. For about an hour and a half ideas were tossed around and details discussed. When we reached the: ok so what date could be done, pen was put to paper... and the response was 16 weeks.... I dropped silent... closed my eyes and began to cry.
Consolement was offered as was the assurance that they were trying to help and understood that I was a "stand up guy". This essentially ended the meeting as I was unable to continue.
We meet again Friday. Now the 16weeks was the longest end of the timeframe, and the one they would commit to, it was asserted that likely it would be sooner. As early as 10 weeks.... 2 and a half more months. still putting it into January, missing her birthday, missing christmas... though she could visit on those days. So what to do, what to do? I collected my thoughts and tried to step outside this bubble I'm in and see what way was best to proceed.
Received tons of advice and perspectives; still not sure "what to do"... but getting closer.
Oct 18
Arg having a hard time getting myself to remember to sit down and write these on time... I'm bad. I will set an alarm in my phone to remind me; 11:30 pm.
So this was court day, much anticipated though I was working off the assumption that it was pointless... an accurate assumption it turns out. I kept Lyric home today with the faint hope that there could be a move to return. But my understanding was that if I refused to consent to their request to a 90 day temporary custody that a case conference would be ordered to see if the two sides could come together avoiding a distant and lengthy trial.
I arrived and saw no-one there I knew... Amie hadn't arrived yet, my lawyer was nowhere in sight, nor Amie's... nobody. After entering the courthouse two group members arrived and we headed into the courtroom. I saw Amie's lawyer and MCFD's lawyer as well as the SW... still no sign of my lawyer. The hearing lasted about 10 seconds.... I did get to speak my first "word" ever in court... "ya", when asked if it was me who was present. Surreal first word and over many months in!
After the hearing, I spoke with the SW where I was informed that my visitation recommendations were rejected, to which I set up an appt for tomorrow morning to discuss. I was also informed that Ayn had again escaped from care.... this time from the foster home, while taking a bath she climbed out a 12" by 12" window 7 ft off the ground. So naked and drugged she ran off, making it to the "main street", the police were called and she was found, wrapped in a blanket and returned to the foster home. I will not be made aware of any details until at the earliest upon completion of the investigation, in fact neither will the SW of my case. And even once they find out there is no obligation to inform me of the findings. I still have yet to hear any result from her previous escape months ago, nor on the issue of the fellow child in care watching Ayn; a 15yr old, who states that she worked the night shift with Ayn and did medicate her.
This whole thing has just been surreal like a nightmare that you never wake up from... you wake up to it.
I have been reading much of my written work on here, and acknowledge the political nature of much of it. I also recognize that many may not view this as a political action as I do. In fact many may retreat from the very notion of politics; I am a political animal, we all are. I do think in those terms and I do see the coercive nature of these actions levied upon my daughter and myself (amongst others). I cannot separate the two as they are inseparable, this could not have happened in a different political environment.
The pervasive belief has become one in which everything is up for a vote... I believe in inalienable rights. I believe this action simply is not one which is up to them, I care not what note they wrote themselves to say they are allowed.. some things are simply not up to them. The governments rightful function is to defend our rights, not to take care of us, but to keep us free from coercion so that we may take care of ourselves. This stance has of course become marginalized as more and more we witness the government's role in our lives expanding.
Ayn is a victim of a political decision, a view that we are servants of the government rather than it a servant of us.
Did my daughter need help? Yes, of course, all children need help.... was she getting the help she needed?
They do not care, her life was ignored, all that mattered was the uninformed opinion of one social worker, a woman who had never met my daughter and never cared how Ayn was doing in the home. She read some school reports thought oh boy this is concerning and then attempted to force their "help" upon us in the form of a "voluntary care agreement". This is the reality we face, this is how "voluntary" is viewed by the system, akin to a mugger asking you to voluntarily hand over your wallet.
But don't worry cause if we all give him our wallets it will be fine.... right? Wrong.
Oct 13
I surround myself with things of Ayn's, her sheets are on my bed, her photo placed directly in my field of view by the computer, her mickey mouse toy beside me, her songs often playing, I read her words written on my walls which I have refused to wash off, wish I hadn't spend the hours washing the rest of her words off either, I would be surrounded by them now if I hadn't.
It is not that I am worried I'll forget her, or that I need inspiration... it is simply for comfort.... a physical manifestation of her presence in my mind. It really takes alot of rationalization to calmly proceed whilst this is being done to her, a parents urge is to rush to their child, danger be damned. This is of course impossible because now I am facing kidnapping by the State, and they are unmatched in their ability to use force, those institutions conceived to defend our rights, have become aggressive violators of them.
So I sit, I plan, I prepare, but I cannot go get my daughter.
I hear many many people say just do what they tell you and it will be fine.... really... where is the logic in this statement?? Has that worked in the past? Do people not see the fallacy in that statement? How has subservience to the State worked to benefit mankind in the past? If I were to adopt that tenet Ayn would not be any safer from this... we cannot succumb to apathy, and I sure hope we haven't been so beaten that we will allow strangers to come and take and drug our children. If no-one stands up and says "no this is wrong!"... how is it we expect it to change?
Obedience does not inherently culminate in safety or everything being "fine". We often defer to others on decisions where we understand our limited expertise, but when that deference is forced upon an entire populous, we are in alot of trouble.
The liberty my daughter has lost is not isolated... this is not just one little retarded girl... this is an encompassing decision that must be recognized and resisted. I love her, I will not give up on her just as I love that which is good in humanity and will not give up on it. I love life, apathy is my enemy, I will obey no-one.
I do what I'm told out of reason not coercion.
Oct 12
Was Wyatt's birthday today, we spent alot of time together, talked about Ayn and what we would do once she was back home. Tried to get him to focus on what was in his power to change or improve upon, that Ayn will be coming home and we will do everything we can to ensure that something like this never happens again. He has such a beautiful and pure sense of right and wrong, but does not understand the sociological nuances of empowering that which is right without allowing coercion to simply persist.
A lot of people understand right and wrong but do not understand that to force someone to be "right" is in itself wrong.
I hope to continue this fight long after Ayn is returned so that she nor any other has to face this sort of treatment in the future. It is not what is being done to Ayn that is wrong, so much as why and how. There are children who may benefit from this, but that decision should be left up to the family not forced upon an entire populous... though not every one of us will ever be subjected to it, we are living with a system which believes it has the right to do this to its people against their will.... The system is wrong, we built it, we support it, and we can abolish it.
To replace a tyranny of the minority with a tyranny of the majority is still tyranny.
My daughter is being held against her will and mine, all with the intent on making her more manageable, to force "help" upon her... all the while acknowledging they do not know her and do not even care to hear about her... yet they know best and I can sit down shut up and wait my turn. grr
Oct 11
Arg I missed two days again, bad too because I have been up late and could have made the time, but it slips my mind when prioritizing on the fly. Well here now. Was a good day for me made progress on several levels, and thought over a lot of things.
Tomorrow I will try to assemble a list of each thing I would like to accomplish prior to the 18th, won't likely be able to get it all done, but will juggle through what I can. Have to simultaneously begin to set up ABA programs, in two locations... now one being in the home that is no prob, however exactly how I go about implementing a program for Ayn in a household I haven't met will be rather hard.
Regardless of my stance on Ayn I am going to have to meet the FP soon I think, not sure how else to do it. These programs are a significant priority and I would like to get as much done on them as possible by myself before the consultant arrives. Have met some great people on the group to help with this... I hope they're ready for me to pester them.
I am very excited about these programs as for so many years I have wanted this sort of thing, but never have been financially able. I remember back when we were running the under six programs for Ayn and Lyric in the home 30 hrs per week... we used Michelle Auton who had been battling the government over providing necessary therapy for her autistic son. Was quite the primer for what was to come, have been fearful of what services would be available to them as they entered into school.
Our funding is cut under the guise that the school is too make up the slack, the reality is that schools do not match up to intensive ABA, not their fault per se, they are simply not provided the resources to accomplish the task. They too struggle tooth and nail for many kids to get more services or to get help with situations they lack the expertise to address.
Ayn's school was filled with dedicated caring people, but they could scarcely get access to any expert services for her... this has to be fixed. A condition which is clearly a medical one yet gets treated as a problem for the schools... almost every year I am in to see a doctor to have them sign another form saying my kids are autistic, yet their therapy is not covered under our medical system. Yet they will quickly involve the medical community to drug them, clearly by force if necessary when the school proves to be unable to cope with certain autistic behaviours like violence or self injury... scary... frustrated...things must change.
Not a lot to report for this day as the previous days events have still not fully sunk in or been analyzed in totality... I am very grateful to everyone on the Group who have really poured a lot of their hearts and minds into this. It helps so much to be able to think things through with so many contributing perspectives.
Still not sure how to proceed so the day was spent trying to continue the thought process started yesterday.
I did somehow sleep for 10 1/2 hrs last night more than I have gotten in 20yrs... mind you this isn't a complaint really... as I choose not to sleep, I so much prefer consciousness and it seems that there is so much to learn and experience who has time for sleep :) . So rested and driven I proceed.
Oct 6
Well it was quite the rollercoaster today, feeling a bit uplifted because the programs and resources being offered to Ayn and Lyric are generous, temporal but generous. My role in setting up these programs is being respected and I believe if properly implemented will be of great benefit to them both. I was accepted today as well into the at home program for Lyric which is additional resources also being allocated towards proper treatment.
The IEP meeting though seemingly important is actually fairly inconsequential as I have done so many now and never have a big problem getting the school to focus on what I feel is important for the kids, not that they are always successful but they do generally word the IEP such that I agree with the stated goals. I presume tomorrow will be no different. May be awkward as I also presume the foster mother could be there as will the staff whom I know well and who have been up until tomorrow not allowed to discuss her with me.
The day then took a big 180 when Amie arrived after her visit and informed me she was told and provided paperwork indicating that they would not return Ayn to me without me first visiting. To be honest it still has not been fully processed by my brain. When I first found out I immediately began thinking about its significance, and was quite saddened, I then received a phone call from a group member and though upset we spoke and she helped to calm and redirect me. Since then I have been rather busy and though I know the wheels are turning inside my head about it all I have not had the opportunity to sit and ponder it at length.
The rest of the documents are positive steps towards return and future support, and I no longer see a reference to a psychiatric assessment, not sure why that is. There is mention of the medication and that they will be seeking a 90 TCO in order to implement their goal: a return to me.
And so now I ponder... what to do... what will be said to me tomorrow?
A day full of meetings, I will be meeting three separate people with the SW who will then also be bringing me to the IEP meeting and home....
and all this will begin presumably with them telling me that if I do not see her they won't return her.
Oct 5
Continued the sorting of all my photos, keepsakes, and old paperwork. Found some interesting POPARD reports and many of Ayn's precious writings. Will scan a bunch in this weekend and get them posted for everyone. It is very hard to look through those items, yet at the same time it is incredibly inspirational. I am quite literally falling asleep sitting here writing this (2:38 am) I will finish it up in the morning.
Oct 4
Never enough hours in the day, with so much to do and consciousness so rewarding, sleep seems to be a daily foe. Am getting up at 5:30-5:45 these days, have to get Lou up no later than 6:30 and be out the door to walk him to the bus by 7:15. Wyatt has taken a strong turn for the sciences this year, focusing on cell biology, energy technology, and chemistry.
As of late I have been working out the details of running a program, for Lyric and Ayn. One which I am to set up both in the home for lyric and in the fosterhome for Ayn. Significant resources have been made available to me by MCFD for this endeavour, and I'd like to set up the best program I can for the money.
Judicially things as always are creeping along, next hearing on the 18th and I believe it is the commencement of the protection hearing/process. Not really sure what exactly happens at it to be honest, which in itself is frustrating... they have your child, your told to sit and wait your turn throughout this long and tedious process... and one which really I do not even understand. I think a case conference will be scheduled at that time and I believe the MCFD either returns or asks for a TCO (temporary custody order), but again I really couldn't say for sure.
Mediation has also been put forth and our informal meetings have been based on her return... the biggest impediment to a prompt return at this point seems to be this psychiatric assessment they want completed. When removed, their plan was to place her into P1 residential psychiatric for a minimum 6wk assessment, though they knew I disapproved and that I maintain Ayn is autistic and autistic only. Around 6 weeks after removal the MCFD autism specialist got to view her file and advised against placing her in P1 (thank you). They however have not relented and have instead opted to do the assessment on an outpatient basis, I am not at all aware of how that process is proceeding.
Closing in on 2am, and still a ton of reading to do, will fall asleep doing so.
Oct 3
Been far too long since I wrote an update just been swamped with so much preparation, I will endeavour to write an update each night at 11:30 even if brief. All the different facets of having a child removed keep you ever switching gears... and emotions.
Today I was pouring through boxes in my garage, searching for a book, and gathering any pertinent old paperwork, have so many photos and pieces of artwork, baby teeth, first hair cuts, homemade birthday cards and ornaments. Was absolutely heartwrenching. Still have to sort through it too... it almost feels like she's dead.
That my little girl who didn't come home from school that day, never will come home the same again. I am not sure if one can imagine the sadness and fury which something like that would invoke... the lengths and hours I have spent protecting and nuturing her... the innocence of a wild animal. And this being done in the name of "helping" us, my daughter is too wild for them to handle, they don't want to put in the time to get to know her or... get her to know them, to develop a sense of shared empathy.
I know it will be Ayn who returns, but there will be something more, a view of the world which no child should have to perceive. I will have to spend countless hours just trying to make her feel safe evermore, I could not imagine walking around throughout my day, believing that at any moment people could grab me and lock me up in a huge, sterile, unknown building and inject me... drug me... not tell me what is happening, what I did, why I am here, where is my family, when can I go home?
I really cannot stress enough how close Ayn and me are... these people have no idea what they have done... what it is they are trying to destroy. And to try to do it under the guise of good intentions and the rule of law. Reminds me of the Orwell line from Animal farm "All animals are equal... but some animals are more equal than others", by what conceivable right do these people think they are operating?
Amie messaged me today, and told me that Ayn asked for the "Finding Ayn" photo I made, Ayn knows I am coming to get her, she knows I won't stop. The government has told me from near the beginning (July 4th) they are working to return her to me, it is almost October 4th.... for what? Because you can? Because you're tough? Because you want to see what we'll do? What we will stand for? I am sick of hearing that paramount is my child's best interest... most of these people do not know the first thing about autism and some have the dignity to admit it, and they certainly do not know my daughter. I do.
Give me back my daughter.
Tuesday, September 13, 2011
DAY 90 OF CAPTIVITY
What can we do to FREE this innocent little one from captivity?
Why hasn't the media taken more responsibility for assisting Ayn and her family?
Media paid attention to the recent story about the abduction of Kienan Hebert and no doubt played a major role in his safe return. For that and whatever other intervention helped to bring him home, we are all very thankful. Kienan was returned by his abductor after 1 week and within a couple of days the RCMP have arrested his suspected abductor in Alberta. So hopefully this will not be repeated. Community working together will help ensure the safety and freedom of our children.
For Ayn it has been 90 days of captivity, her basic right as a Canadian child has been stolen by the government service that should be guaranteeing that right and many more she has lost! The reason given for her abduction was because a worker with CPS thought her dad Derek Hoare might be overwhelmed having to care for 3 children, two of whom are autistic. So, without ever observing Ayn in her home environment, where she was doing well, they abducted her from school on June 16.
As would any 9 year old child being taken by strangers, never mind that she was autistic, she put up some resistance being taken from school and to a place she was totally unfamiliar with. Her Daddy was not there to help her. One would have to assume the person responsible for these actions had no knowledge of autism along with the lack of information about how Ayn was doing anywhere but in school on that day!
So Ayn's International Rights as a child have been severly violated https://www.facebook.com/groups/justiceforayn/doc/161664610573701/ and she has been given a cocktail of drugs that I am guessing no parent would ever approve of https://www.facebook.com/groups/justiceforayn/doc/185727251500770/
There is no unknown suspect in this abduction case. The RCMP do not have to go to another province to find Ayn's abductors. Ayn's safe return to her dad and brothers can happen immediately. It can happen as soon as The Minister of MCFD in British Columbia admits that a mistake has been made. With the information MCFD now has about Ayn, autism and her family life they too must believe like thousands of others that AYN NEEDS TO GO HOME NOW!
Why hasn't the media taken more responsibility for assisting Ayn and her family?
Media paid attention to the recent story about the abduction of Kienan Hebert and no doubt played a major role in his safe return. For that and whatever other intervention helped to bring him home, we are all very thankful. Kienan was returned by his abductor after 1 week and within a couple of days the RCMP have arrested his suspected abductor in Alberta. So hopefully this will not be repeated. Community working together will help ensure the safety and freedom of our children.
For Ayn it has been 90 days of captivity, her basic right as a Canadian child has been stolen by the government service that should be guaranteeing that right and many more she has lost! The reason given for her abduction was because a worker with CPS thought her dad Derek Hoare might be overwhelmed having to care for 3 children, two of whom are autistic. So, without ever observing Ayn in her home environment, where she was doing well, they abducted her from school on June 16.
As would any 9 year old child being taken by strangers, never mind that she was autistic, she put up some resistance being taken from school and to a place she was totally unfamiliar with. Her Daddy was not there to help her. One would have to assume the person responsible for these actions had no knowledge of autism along with the lack of information about how Ayn was doing anywhere but in school on that day!
So Ayn's International Rights as a child have been severly violated https://www.facebook.com/groups/justiceforayn/doc/161664610573701/ and she has been given a cocktail of drugs that I am guessing no parent would ever approve of https://www.facebook.com/groups/justiceforayn/doc/185727251500770/
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Friday, September 2, 2011
FREEDOM
It is a new day. September 1 did not bring the encouraging results we all expected for Ayn's safe return home to her family. So now we begin to hope and pray for a positive outcome from the resheduled court session on September 26 ~ freedom for Ayn!
I was asking myself, "What is this 'freedom' we speak of?"
The dictionary definition.................
Main Entry: merriam-Webster's Dictionary of Law, © 1996 Merriam-Webster, Inc.
free-dom
Function: noun
1: the quality or state of being free: as a: the absence of necessity, coercion, or constraint in choice or action b: liberation from slavery or restraint or from the power of another c: the quality or state of being exempt or released from something onerous 2: a political or civil right
Is this something we take for granted here in Canada, in North America? Is it that which can be so quickly taken, as happened to Ayn Van Dyk? YES and YES!
How can a happy, safe, well loved and cared for 9 year old child with autism so quickly lose the freedom she has known and has a right to? Plus she has lost the right to oppose her captors by being drugged into submission. All of us are baffled by this crime and how it could be perpetrated by the British Columbia Ministry of Children and Family Development. Their webpage states " The Ministry provides programs and services to ensure that healthy children and responsible families are living in safe, caring and inclusive communities." Ayn Van Dyk had all this with her family; they took it all from her and have been holding her captive, now 78 days, in an environment that in no way is or can meet even her basic needs. She was healthy, safe, cared for and loved by her parents and brothers who miss her very much. She will be again, but at what cost to her and her family?
Okay, so it seems fairly clear then that we as adults, those of us who care, have a duty to see that we get this 'freedom' back that was stolen from Ayn and her family.
I think the saying, from an ancient African proverb says, "It takes a village to raise a child." In this modern day it is a global village that needs to step up to this challenge now to ensure Ayn's freedom and that of all children.
We must find ways to tell the true story to everyone in the village.
We must find ways to remain hopeful and positive in our efforts.
We must find ways to raise the funds needed to get Ayn and her family the best legal representation possible.
I believe we can do this, do you?
I was asking myself, "What is this 'freedom' we speak of?"
The dictionary definition.................
Main Entry: merriam-Webster's Dictionary of Law, © 1996 Merriam-Webster, Inc.
free-dom
Function: noun
1: the quality or state of being free: as a: the absence of necessity, coercion, or constraint in choice or action b: liberation from slavery or restraint or from the power of another c: the quality or state of being exempt or released from something onerous 2: a political or civil right
Is this something we take for granted here in Canada, in North America? Is it that which can be so quickly taken, as happened to Ayn Van Dyk? YES and YES!
How can a happy, safe, well loved and cared for 9 year old child with autism so quickly lose the freedom she has known and has a right to? Plus she has lost the right to oppose her captors by being drugged into submission. All of us are baffled by this crime and how it could be perpetrated by the British Columbia Ministry of Children and Family Development. Their webpage states " The Ministry provides programs and services to ensure that healthy children and responsible families are living in safe, caring and inclusive communities." Ayn Van Dyk had all this with her family; they took it all from her and have been holding her captive, now 78 days, in an environment that in no way is or can meet even her basic needs. She was healthy, safe, cared for and loved by her parents and brothers who miss her very much. She will be again, but at what cost to her and her family?
Okay, so it seems fairly clear then that we as adults, those of us who care, have a duty to see that we get this 'freedom' back that was stolen from Ayn and her family.
I think the saying, from an ancient African proverb says, "It takes a village to raise a child." In this modern day it is a global village that needs to step up to this challenge now to ensure Ayn's freedom and that of all children.
We must find ways to tell the true story to everyone in the village.
We must find ways to remain hopeful and positive in our efforts.
We must find ways to raise the funds needed to get Ayn and her family the best legal representation possible.
I believe we can do this, do you?
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